Love and dating in the mid 19th century

In the days when this great nation was split up and fighting an internal war, there was still love and families back home for many of the soldiers. This is something we don’t think about as much when looking through the history books. But a war can sometimes be worse for those who are left behind at home, wondering what is going on. Not knowing is often the most difficult part. It’s hard to imagine all the people that were still at home, hoping that their spouse would come back, for example from the battle of Gettysburg. In that era, communities were different from what they are today. People depended more on each other, and they met more frequently outside. So the process of finding a partner was not the same as it is now. Growing up in the same town and talking to each other often was common ways of finding love.

Then and now

loveNow, we stay indoors and don’t meet as much people. Many things have been automated, so there is nothing forcing us to go out and socialize. The trend these days seem to be online dating. At first glance, it might be seen as a more convenient solution, and it’s certainly better than just staying at home by ourselves. But it can be quite an uncertain outcome when meeting someone that is not previously known to us. There are often some information displayed about the other person on these sites, but how can we really know who they are before seeing them face to face? That is one of the risks today that did not exist in the same way during the 19th century when most people got to know their spouse for a long time before actually dating.

I have a friend who’s been doing this kind of dating for a while, and he’s very happy with it. He’s from Sweden, and tried to show me some of these sites, I think he used the word dejtingsajter, but I wasn’t able to understand anything until he translated it to me. I’m not that good with technical things, but apparently e-harmony was not that difficult to use, according to him.

partnersOne thing that has stood the test of time when it comes to love and dating, is similar interests. Both me and my wife are big fans of museums dedicated to the civil war, and that’s how we met. When both persons have something in common, there are rarely any shortages of things to say and talk about. It wasn’t on our first date, but on the third, that we went to a museum and walked around there together. We both remember that date very well, and still talk about it quite often. But there is no set formula for finding love. It’s different for each and every person, and this was the case back in the days of the 19th century too. Even though the methods that are used to meet new people have changed, the basic things that connects us remain the same. Maybe it has gotten more difficult to find a partner now than it was before, and maybe it has gotten easier. It is all in the eyes of the beholder.

Dogs in the civil war

Since a long time back, dogs have been brought to the wars created by man. It is very sad to think that they had to endure these situations which they had no stake in. We can only hope that this is now a thing of the past. Some museums that are dedicated to portraying the civil war, have got evidence of soldiers bringing their dogs along to the battlefield. Maybe now we are able to make up for this, by giving our pets the best lives possible. A couple of museums allow us to bring our dogs, and some even provide a service where someone watches over our pets while we are inside. That way they can get some rest, or play while we look around. A good advice for museums that have this kind of dog-sitting, is to get some fancy dog beds, so that they are able to relax and require less attention by the staff if there are many pets at the same time. There are some nice luxury dog beds that can be found on this page.

american civil warMany of the dogs that were used in the american civil war, were brought as mascots to improve morale of the troops. Some of them even got famous, and are remembered to this day. Many different breeds were used for this purpose, but a few were more prominent, like Bulldogs and Irish Wolfhounds.

The armies frequently had to walk long distances, so there was no shortage of physical exercise for their dogs. In todays day and age, where many pets do not get enough stimulation, that could be seen as something positive, but even dogs have a limited amount of energy, and walking all day could easily exceed what is considered healthy. Then there are all loud and sudden noises and movements. Dogs experience these things in a way that is much greater than ours. Their hearing is amplified, so both gunshots and cannon fire can prove very shocking. On top of that, imagine what it would be like, participating in these battles without knowing why you are there and what is really going on.


In present time though, it can be a fun activity to bring our dogs on a historical tour to learn more about the battle of Gettysburg and similar events, as long as they are allowed of course. That way, we can explore and gain a deeper understanding of our history, while our pets get to experience new scenery in nature, and engage in this activity together with us. But take care not to participate in demonstrations that involve loud sounds and noises, as that can easily scare them. Activities like this, although fun, can make both humans and dogs alike become tired afterwards, so make sure there is a nice place to sleep and regain some strength. Again, luxury dog beds would be an ideal item for this purpose. Some museums even sell these in their gift shop, so that could be one place to look. Another would be to start looking online, either by reading up on the subject through sites like the one described previously in this article, or by going straight to a shop and placing an order.